A while back I posted about Self-Love and hard it can be at times to really love yourself. (You can find part one here.) A little bit of time has passed and at time I still find myself in that same rut. I still feel like I’m lacking the self-love portion of life.
Here lately it feels that once I start feeling like I can love myself the way I am, someone comes along and makes a comment or something and then I’m right back at square one.
Here’s a pretty good example of that: I was finally at the point where I felt like I could start to love myself. I was feeling good about school and work was going okay, and towards myself I was feeling more positive than I had been in a while. One day last week while I was at work an older guy I work with made a pretty shitty comment towards me. I was taking a little break and ate a slice of pizza real quick (I hadn’t eaten all day, I stayed pretty busy between class and chasing a toddler). So I just sat down at the table that the employees usually sit at and he has the nerve to ask if I was eating for two. It didn’t quite register to me at first, so I was like “nah, sometimes I feel it though.” But it really kind of hurt my feelings. I know I’m not a size two, I don’t want to be, and I know that I still have a bit of a “pudge” from when I had my son nearly three years ago. That doesn’t give people the right to assume things about me because of my size or the way I’m built. He isn’t the only one who’s made comments like that. A few of the people who “hang out” at the store next door to us (one of them is actually a customer) had made similar comments, asking if I was having another baby. It hurts my feelings every. single. time. I just suck up my feelings and go about my job. I can cry about it later.
I didn’t realize that people could be so judgmental and rude until I started working with the public. Men especially, as they’re the only ones who have made those comments. If anyone else has they haven’t said it to my face, so maybe that’s even worse, I don’t know. I just know that to be asked something like that when you aren’t pregnant or anywhere near it just kind of hurts. As if I don’t already know I look this way, the comments make it worse. I do have feelings, some people just don’t take that into consideration sometimes.
So what do you do when people are that cruel and make assumptions like that? Some may say that you cuss them out or give them a piece of your mind. You give them a rude comeback just as bad as that comment they gave you. Some people will choose to take the high road and keep their reaction to themselves like I did. It’s up to you how you react. If your go-to reaction is humor, joke about it with them, if it’s to be snarky, give them a piece of your mind, if it’s hurt, let your feeling show.
I will tell you this, don’t let people get to you. If you are on your journey to self-love, don’t let people interrupt that. You love yourself to best of your abilities.
Love yourself more than anyone else can.
Love yourself before you love anyone else. This is where I tend to mess up and what I need to work on. I’m pretty sure I have mentioned this before but before I ever attempt to love anyone else I really need to learn to love myself first. Fully and unconditionally love myself.
Please don’t let someone else’s snide remarks get to you.
Love yourself. ♥