So it’s been a while since I last posted. I’ve been in a slump with a lot of things and my past few weekends have been busy, and now I finally got a break so I can catch up. Being that October is nearly at a close, I figured I would share a few things that I have “learned” over the past few weeks. I’ll try to keep the length kind of decent, but don’t worry, some of them will have their own spin-off post. Lol
Now, without further adieu, here’s my list…
1) The Past is the Past for a Reason. Long story short for me, sometimes delving in the past isn’t the best choice. If you dated someone and it didn’t work out then, chances are it won’t work out this time either. I thought trying to have another go with an ex (or two) would be good. I was comfortable with them, they knew me well, and I was pretty sure I, too, knew them well. However, things change, people show their “true” colors, and well, time doesn’t always mend things. There will still be faults, people change, and sometimes it’s best to leave the past behind you. I had a hard time realizing this until I got not one, but two doses of this. I had not one, but two guys who showed me that the past is not the way I should go, and I am very thankful for that.
2) You Don’t Have to Apologize. Over the weekend I made this realization. Why am I apologizing for my thoughts and feelings? Chances are, whatever I said and did, was because I felt strongly about it. Now, if you didn’t mean to do or say something, then obviously, it’s nice if you do apologize, but I’m not talking about that. If you are standing up for what you believe in, why apologize? I shouldn’t apologize for my political views, for my thoughts and beliefs, for things that make me uncomfortable, or for not feeling the same way someone else does. Stand up for yourself and what you believe in!
3) It’s Okay to Let People Go. Sometimes the best thing we can do for ourselves is to let someone go. They don’t have to be 100% toxic to us, they don’t have to necessarily be a “bad” person. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve known someone, how well you know them, or how close you are to them. Once true colors show and you know that this person won’t be a match for you, it’s okay to let them go. This goes for others outside of the “potential partner” range. If there is someone you trust don’t see eye-to-eye with, or family members who only bring you down, it’s ok to let it all go. Everyone deserves a positive chance at life, and the best way to go about that is ridding your life of toxic people.
All three of these things have added up to someone I once again let into my life, and have realized that he is a no-go for me. I’m pissed it caused me a wasted weekend and 2 missed days of work, but well, how else would I have known? I’m thankful for these realizations now as I’m sure it saved me a lot of hurt and regret later on down the road.
Here’s to a brand new me and no more looking back. ♥